Rationalization...

A man is talking with his wife, he gets angry and beats his child, and the child is scarred, and the man says it's not his fault because his wife made him angry... or that he isn't at as much fault because he was angry...

That's rationalization. That's what we do everday... that's normal... that's a defense mechanism we use to defend ourselves... and, that's pathetic.

Why do people rationalize?

Now I'm sure we've all heard the concept of "it's okay" to do such and such, because of such and such... or... "There's nothing wrong with..." blah blah blah... there is something wrong, and it's by rationalization that people say there is nothing wrong.

The reason people rationalize and say things are okay... so they feel better about themselves. So they can think "as long as Mr. S over here is worse, I'm okay."

Well... Mr. S doesn't exist because Mr. S is just a little thing called self-denial. Don't deny something just because it makes yourself look bad... instead learn to change.

The lies about change...

I hear this all the freaking time, and quite frankly I'm angry. People say changing is impossible, or that they cannot change because it is not who they are. They say many things from "everyone else does it, so it has to be okay" to "I can't help it if I am this way."

I say... "you lie."

If you wish not to change... remain pitiful. I have changed over and over, many times, and I do not fear it. On many issues, I have changed when I was given a new perspective... some things however stay permanent in me.
But I myself have changed an incredibly large amount of times.

Change is hard, not impossible, remember that.

Don't short change yourself if you are afraid to try and change. Don't let your emotions harm you... don't let others tell you that you cannot change.

Change is hard.... because it is only you who can orchestrate it. The individual can't change unless the individual wants to change.

If you are weak, become strong.
If you are poor, become rich.
If you are dumb, become intelligent.

No change comes without hard work, every deed is 10% inspiration 90% perspiration.

Now this is why I hate Rationalization

And my whole point comes to this... anyone who says they cannot change only say it because they are afraid to change. Or because they feel they are good enough already through Rationalization. It is because they rationalize their own existence that they do not feel it necessary to become better...

I've had a constant struggle with rationalization, until I came to the realization there is no one to compare myself to. There are only two things to live by... morals and dreams. If I say I cannot be moral, I am rationalizing because I don't want to be moral, not because I can't be moral. If I do not chase my dreams, it's not because I don't want to chase them.... it is because I tell myself I am no good, and unable to do so.

Let no one stand in your way... let no rationalization prevent you from change. Do what must be done... not what the program says. I've said it once, and I'll say it always... don't let society make you feel inferior, and don't short change society on the great person you can be.